山大妞的習慣: 偏好媽咪 FW: Baby Steps to Independence
不但山大妞要和媽咪睡
最近連山大王都要和媽咪妹妹睡
半夜床位大風吹就這樣開始
媽咪很希望山大王去自己房間睡
一張床只睡得下兩個人
媽咪每每晚上要讓大小兩隻睡著
都得花一番功夫
雖然山大王常是睡得不省人事
但是腳還是會弄到妹妹
半夜山大妞哭要ㄋㄟ
媽咪只好把山大妞抱到大房間媽咪睡的床
山大王半夜醒來見到沒有人在小房間跟他睡
他就會跑來大房間跟爸比睡
真是很累人的大風吹
山大妞習慣媽咪幫她抓抓
每次對爸鼻來服務都不表友善
正是這階段兩歲兒的對習慣的偏好
爸鼻要多加油打破這種
"媽咪才可以的"山大妞的"傲慢與偏見"啦
Your 2-year-old now
Try not to take it personally if your preschooler has begun preferring one parent over another (and you're the odd man — or woman — out). She might decide one day that only Daddy can read the bedtime story, not Mom.
Habit is sometimes the reason: If Mom has driven to the babysitter every day, there's a fuss when Dad does it. More obviously, a parent who's been away on a trip might be shunned. It's your child's way of saying, "I really, really missed you and didn't like it ... I'm afraid you'll do it again."
Know that these whims are temporary. If you're the one on the outs, don't take it personally. If you're on the ins, specify some activities that are done with the other parent so that you'll get an occasional break. Continue about your usual routines with your child and things will fall back to normal.
Whatever you do, don't try to win back your child's affection with special toys or relaxed rules. You'll only set a bad precedent and reward her behavior. Besides, the one thing she really wants (even when she's acting like she doesn't) is you.
Your life now
Feeling bored during your child's tea parties, block-building, or attempts to play Candyland? Of course you do sometimes. Playing with a preschooler can be tedious business for grown-ups. They're notoriously bossy, impetuous, and into doing the same thing again and again.
Don't feel bad about encouraging your child to play alone sometimes; it builds her independence. Also look for alternatives you can do together without losing your sanity, like cooking or gardening, playing outside, or taking a walk. Or let your child imitate your activities while you work, for example, at her own "desk" or play kitchen.
