Your 5-Year-Old: Try, try again

Try, try again

Perseverance is a key ingredient for success in life. If your child can develop stick-to-it-iveness, she's more likely to work harder at learning and feel better about herself when she accomplishes something new or figures something out. Encourage your child to try her best through your actions, your attitudes, and your words.
我也覺得從小可以看出小孩子對事情的堅持，藉以瞭解以後她做事情、做功課的態度，梓熏很明顯不是這樣的個性，庭琳就比姐姐有耐心許多，學業表現也比較好（或說穩定），至於小馨呢？應該不像梓熏姐姐這樣散漫的個性，應該也是屬於能夠自律、會自動自發的，但是我覺得她還小，很多事情還看不出來，總之，還值得觀察就是。

Your 5-year-old now
We all want to raise independent, resilient children with healthy self-esteem. We need to praise and encourage them — but within reason. If we're complimenting their every action, the words of praise soon sound hollow and meaningless. Likewise, if you protect your child from every challenge, she won't develop the skills to solve problems or think for herself.
基本上美國人的教育還是屬於以「鼓勵」為主，放手讓小孩子去做，以培養他們的獨立性，這個過程是養成小孩變成獨立個體很重要的關鍵因素，

Experts believe that children are healthier emotionally and learn more when they face obstacles and overcome them.專家相信若能讓小孩子學習面對挫折，他們將會更健康地成長及學習，我也同意要讓小孩子嘗試自己解決問題，不要總是幫她做好一切的事情。 There's a sweet emotional boost that comes when they succeed after they've failed. In fact, perseverance may be more important to future success than intelligence or talent.「堅持」比天分更為重要，凡事堅持下去就能成功，這句話到了我不惑之年，才能有所體會，只是對小孩而言還是很難啊！！

So as your 5-year-old ventures out and tries new things, from tying her own shoes to making new friends on the playground, don't step in to help at the first sign of frustration. It's okay to let her figure it out herself. She wants — and needs — to try new challenges. When she does succeed, she'll feel so much better about it.
我想我需要給小馨時間，很多時候因為我急躁，而幫她做好事情，不如放手讓他自己完成一些小事，例如穿鞋子、收拾玩具....其實這些事情她都已經會了，我應該給她更多時間、更大空間讓她獨立完成。
Try these phrases to encourage perseverance in your child:


•"I know you can do it!"
•"Hang in there."
•"Keep trying."
•"Don't give up yet."

Your life now
As your life with a 5-year-old winds down, give yourself a moment to review how far you've come as a parent. Your helpless baby is now a sturdy, curious, amazing little person who can walk, talk, draw, and maybe even read and write. As you marvel, remember, too, that for as big as she's become, she's still a little kid. She still needs slack occasionally — and plenty of hugs.
沒錯！即使小馨這個月已經滿6足歲了，我還是覺得她像個小baby，很多時候她會過來跟我撒嬌、要我抱抱，我還是覺得她肉肉嫩嫩地好可愛~我不能太苛責於她，因為她目前真的只是個孩子！