Your 2-Year-Old: Baby Steps to Independence
Baby Steps to Independence
Your preschooler's branching out. Increasingly he feels secure enough to play a little farther from you at the playground. Sometimes he even turns away from you around the house. Two-year-olds sometimes make a big show of "rejecting" one parent and wanting the other to get him dressed, read to him, play with him, and so on. Rest assured it's a temporary thing. Act normally, even if it hurts a little, and the phase will pass.
她正一步步走向獨立嗎？
有時總覺得她還很小，可是聽她講話，卻又覺得她真的已經長大不少，會說好多話、也會跟我們對話回應，有時等著她結結巴巴將話講出來，也會讓我很知足...
但是很多時候就像上述文字講的，有時只要「把拔」或「馬麻」幫她穿衣、穿鞋、洗澡、推推車....她對大人也有很多的意見，我們會感到難過嗎？
Your 2-year-old now
Try not to take it personally if your preschooler has begun preferring one parent over another (and you're the odd man — or woman — out). She might decide one day that only Daddy can read the bedtime story, not Mom.
Habit is sometimes the reason: If Mom has driven to the babysitter every day, there's a fuss when Dad does it. More obviously, a parent who's been away on a trip might be shunned. It's your child's way of saying, "I really, really missed you and didn't like it ... I'm afraid you'll do it again."
Know that these whims are temporary. If you're the one on the outs, don't take it personally. If you're on the ins, specify some activities that are done with the other parent so that you'll get an occasional break. Continue about your usual routines with your child and things will fall back to normal.
Whatever you do, don't try to win back your child's affection with special toys or relaxed rules. You'll only set a bad precedent and reward her behavior. Besides, the one thing she really wants (even when she's acting like she doesn't) is you.
Your life now
Feeling bored during your child's tea parties, block-building, or attempts to play Candyland? Of course you do sometimes. Playing with a preschooler can be tedious business for grown-ups. They're notoriously bossy, impetuous, and into doing the same thing again and again.
Don't feel bad about encouraging your child to play alone sometimes; it builds her independence. Also look for alternatives you can do together without losing your sanity, like cooking or gardening, playing outside, or taking a walk. Or let your child imitate your activities while you work, for example, at her own "desk" or play kitchen.
