Your 2-Year-Old: Why Preschoolers Lie
Why Preschoolers Lie
Your maturing preschooler probably gives you plenty of reason to feel proud: when he remembers to say "thank you," for example, or gives you an empathetic hug if he sees you're sad. So you may be thrown for a loop the first time your child tells a bald-faced lie. It's not deviance. An active imagination and a tendency to forget what happened ten minutes ago explain away most lying in this age group.
會不會說謊？應該不是用「說謊」一詞來形容，而是這個階段的小孩說話並不可完全採信，他們的想像力與接觸最近所聽到的、看到的東西息息相關，因此常常會複製在身上，其實小馨還小，根本還不懂得「說謊」是什麼，她還這麼天真無邪，說的話常常惹我們歡笑，我們一點也不覺得這與說謊有什麼關係呢！
Your 2-year-old now
For preschoolers, the line between fantasy and reality is blurry, which may explain their tendency to lie.（沒錯，真實的生活與故事的情境對他們來說是模糊的，他們純真的心理認為這是同一個時空發生的事情，因此讓大人有「小孩會說謊」的錯覺） Your child's intent isn't to deceive you. Rather, she wants to say what will make you happy — even if it isn't true. Make it less scary for her to tell the truth and you'll help her avoid fibbing. For example, if she denies drawing on the wall, calmly help her clean up and point out that crayons are for coloring books and paper. Counterintuitively, humor can be another useful response. Go along with the tall tale and embroider it yourself, and your child will probably catch on to the absurdity of her story.
Two-year-olds' lies also sprout from their active imaginations. They come to believe certain things they've imagined really did happen: Maybe it was the dragon under the bed who messed up all those clothes all over the floor.（哈哈，這麼說來，每晚睡前媽媽提到大野狼和虎姑婆，就是小馨想像力最被刺激的時候！昨晚趁著「大野狼」的餘威，讓小馨點頭願意在臉上擦乳液）
And sometimes what seems like a lie is sheer forgetfulness. You ask, "Did you put your finger in the frosting of that birthday cake?" and if it happened much earlier in a busy day, she just might not be sure whether she did it or her big brother did.
Your life now
As a baby your child was content to sit in the grocery cart gazing quietly at the kaleidoscope（萬花筒） of colors in the aisles. Now it's "I want that!" and "Can I have ...?" Don't be afraid to say no.
（沒錯！現在只要進了頂好超市，她馬上像脫韁野馬，到處尋找她要的、之前她買過的、或把拔要的東西...讓我們不勝其擾，總是偷偷地將東西放回，最後僅留下一件她可以買的零食）
Concentrate on buying what you came for and don't give into begging and whining unless you want to live with the habits. Bonus: Experiencing frustration allows a child to learn patience and self-control.
所以千萬不能妥協也是一種辦法，讓小孩遭遇一些挫折或困難也能讓她學習到耐心與自制力！我們還要再加油！
