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山大妞昨晚開始發燒 今天媽咪就在家帶她 所以跟山大王老師請假 山大王很失望媽咪今天不能去學校幫忙 其實媽咪一星期有兩天去山大王班上幫忙 對於山大王在教室的情形還算了解 班上三十二個小朋友媽咪也都喊得出來他們的名字 也跟老師談過山大王覺得在班上沒有朋友的情形 第一次家長會和老師談這個問題時 老師建議幾位媽咪讓山大王和幾個同學下課後一起玩 但是媽咪沒有和這些家長聯絡 因為山大妞下午還要睡午覺 傍晚媽咪還要做晚餐 時間實在不好安排 週末沒事但全家喜歡窩家裡也懶得安排活動 有時媽咪覺得大人懶得社交 好像間接會影響到孩子的社交能力呢 成績單上老師觀察山大王在班上和同學相處得很好 但是媽咪在星期一山大王哭著上學的事件 也和老師反映山大王說沒有朋友似乎是 課間休息時間沒有人和他玩的事 老師一直以為山大王星期一哭是 因為爸鼻沒有把他帶到學校裡再放他下車 其實山大王喜歡在到學校前就下車 只是星期一事件山大王哭著不想上學 山大王下車不肯走去教室 讓媽咪有機會再和老師聊一下 山大王說他在班上沒有朋友這件事 和老師觀察到的不一樣 媽咪去教室幫忙時 老師也曾經反映山大王會摺紙給同學很棒 大家都很喜歡山大王的作品 媽咪和其他家長聊時 她們也都很喜歡山大王說他很有禮貌很開朗 山大王很有長輩緣 但在同儕尤其是男孩子間 卻有困難玩在一起 在家媽咪不喜歡他玩刀劍 所以從沒給他這些玩具 頂多用紙板裁畫一把紙刀讓他過過癮 媽咪想這到不至於讓山大王 在朋友間玩不起來 星期一回家前老師也問山大王 他喜歡和哪些朋友一起玩 山大王回答幾個多半他們課後還要去YMCA 不過老師也答應會幫忙山大王 和一些比較不會拒絕他的同學一起配對玩 不過因為學校老師在學生下課遊戲時間 是她們休息的時間 所以老師能不能從旁協助輔導山大王 在課間休息遊戲時推波助瀾幫助山大王找到一起玩的同伴 媽咪比較有所遲疑 媽咪和爸鼻也想要不要讓山大王去參加中文學校, 組神奇樹屋讀書會 童子軍或其他他有興趣的課讓他有機會交知心朋友 也謝謝大阿姨和阿蔚姨的關心 給媽咪一些很好的提醒建議 媽咪也要多和老師聊同學和山大王互動的情形 這樣才有機會幫助山大王了解自己為什麼下課時 找不到同學和他一起玩 ****************************** How to build a good relationship with your child's teacher by Maile Carpenter You can stay up all night baking birthday cupcakes for your child's class and help him with his presentations, but nothing is as important as building a good working relationship with his teacher. "It's the best gift you can give your child," says Trudy Carpenter, director of special services for Ledyard public schools in Connecticut. Your child will thrive in school if you can create a "circle of support" that includes the three of you (your child, his teacher, and you), says Carpenter. The more freely information flows back and forth between home and school, the better your child will feel about learning. The circle of support needs to be especially strong when your child first begins school, but it will remain important throughout his school years. Here are some ways to build and sustain good communication with your child's teacher: Get to know the teacher right away. It's best to talk to the teacher before a problem surfaces. Although some teachers might want to wait until the first school-scheduled conference to meet, try to arrange at least a quick conversation at the beginning of the year. Make it casual; briefly introduce yourself and your child to the teacher and mention any special concerns. Let your child see you speak with his teacher, or tell him that you did. Children feel safe when the important adults in their lives work together. Keep in regular touch. Use your first meeting to create a plan for staying in regular contact throughout the year. Perhaps you can pass notes back and forth in a spiral notebook or blank journal each week; a brief comment or two will suffice. If you choose a system such as this, involve your child. Let him pick his favorite notebook, and give him the responsibility of carrying it between you and his teacher. If you'd rather chat than write, ask his teacher when you might call or meet with her briefly, either before or after school. Say thank you. Pass along compliments as well as suggestions and criticism. Everyone appreciates a kind word. If your child comes home bubbling over with how much fun school was that day, let the teacher know. Thank her when she shows special sensitivity toward your child or pays him extra attention. Stay involved with the class. Even if you work full time, you can still help. A small gesture goes a long way to show you care. You could collect art supplies for a class project and drop them off at school. You could also call parents about upcoming events. Your child's teacher will appreciate your help and make note of your willingness to be involved. Talk about school at home. Ask your child about school every day. Questions such as "How was school?" are too vague. Try to ask specific questions, such as "Is your friend Michael back in school today?" or "Were you able to go for a walk today or was it too rainy?" Children are more likely to answer these questions and you can use this information when talking with the teacher. Be discreet but take action if problems arise. If you are angry with the teacher, take steps to address your feelings with her as soon as possible. Don't criticize her in front of your child. He's attached to both of you and if feels he's in the middle of your dispute, it could make him anxious. Respect the chain of command. If you have a serious concern about your child or the class, speak to the teacher first. Arrange a problem-solving or brainstorming meeting in which you and the teacher try to work out issues. If you're still unhappy, let the teacher know that you want to continue the discussion with her supervisor (if the teacher is the director of the preschool, you may have to consider changing schools). By including the teacher in future discussions, you're being respectful of her relationship with your child. Remember what PARENT stands for: Partner. Be there for your child and his teacher. Help your child prepare for school at home, and keep abreast of school events. Advocate. Work for change in the classroom if you're unhappy with the staff or the curriculum. Resource. Help your child by providing his teacher with information about him. The more she knows about your child's home life, the more she'll be able to help him learn. Encourager. Support your child and his teacher. Believe in them. Compliment jobs well done. Negotiator. Be willing to talk. Be open to finding innovative solutions. Team member. Do your share of the work. Teachers can't fix everything themselves. A child's education takes place at home, too. |
