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小花十個月了!

2005年09月03日
公開
17

●More Mobility By the time he''s 10 months old, your baby will probably be able to crawl well on his hands and knees, with his trunk parallel to the floor. (Many babies begin trying to crawl before 10 months, but master the skill only now.) He may even be able to crawl up stairs. At this age, your baby can also sit confidently and may even walk while holding onto furniture, possibly letting go momentarily and standing without support. He''ll take steps when held in a walking position and may attempt to scoop up a toy while he''s standing, too. Those magical first steps toward independence — and lots more exercise for you! — are just around the corner. ●Fingering Your baby''s fingers are becoming more agile. Using his pincer grasp, he may be able to pick up a piece of cereal or other small object without having to rest his wrist on a solid surface. (Now that your child has graduated to solid foods, expect plenty of cereal underfoot!) He''s intrigued by tiny things and is still likely to taste-test them. This is fine as long as they''re edible and not so small that he could choke on them. A good rule of thumb is to avoid letting your child have anything that won''t dissolve in water, like a peanut. ●Blooming personality Your baby''s personality is really emerging now. He may be very social, granting broad smiles to everyone he meets, or a little more reticent, shyly hiding his face when well-meaning strangers try to engage him. He''ll repeat sounds, gesture for your attention, and may even wave goodbye when he sees you head for the door. He''s also developing a mind of his own, which you may run up against when you try to put him in his car seat or stroller. ●Handling your baby''s fears There will be times when your child is afraid of things he can''t understand. He may even be frightened by things that didn''t formerly bother him, like a ringing doorbell or a whistling teakettle. When this happens, the most important thing you can do as a parent is comfort and reassure him; tell him that you''re there and he''s fine. ●Talking to your chatterbox Your baby is just beginning to understand many simple words and phrases, so it''s more important than ever to keep talking to him. Give your chatterbox a head start on good speech patterns by repeating his words back to him using adult language. If he asks for a "bah-bah," for example, gently reinforce the correct pronunciation by asking, "Do you want a bottle?" At this stage of the game, it''s best to try to avoid the tendency to use baby talk — it''s fun, but hearing the right words is better for your baby''s development. Though it may sometimes feel silly, having conversations with your baby is a great way to encourage his language skills. When he rattles off a sentence of gibberish, respond with "Oh, really? How interesting." He''ll probably smile and keep chattering away. Soon you may notice some words or gestures you actually understand, as well as other forms of communication, such as pointing and grunting. Give your baby a play-by-play description of what you''re doing — whether you''re dicing onions for dinner or folding the laundry. As you put him in his stroller, say, "There you go, into your blue stroller. Now, let''s buckle you in and get you comfortable. Okay, we''re off to the park." You can also sing nursery rhymes, demonstrate actions that go with words (saying "bye-bye" and waving, for instance), and play games, such as patty-cake or ring-around-the-rosy, so he learns to identify key words and phrases. He''ll soon start to make the connections. Before long, he''ll be clapping his hands together when you do and may begin to say "Mama" when he''s looking at mom and "Dada" when dad comes into the room (though at this point he''s still more likely to use the two names indiscriminately). ●Is my baby developing normally? Remember, each baby is unique and meets physical milestones at his own pace. These skills are simply a guide to what your baby has the potential to accomplish — if not right now, then shortly. If your baby was born prematurely, you''ll probably find that he needs just a bit longer before he can do the same things as other children his age. Don''t worry. Most doctors assess a preterm child''s development from the time he should have been born and evaluate his skills accordingly.

誇獎真有效

2005年08月31日
公開
14

馬麻這兩天觀察發現,小花對把拔馬麻的誇獎終於有明顯反應了! 昨天下午,馬麻帶著在樓下待膩了的小花轉戰樓上, 小花一如往常又開始開心地大ㄑㄧㄠ特ㄑㄧㄠ,把自己鞋櫃翻得一團亂; 後來,小花突然瞄到尿布台下方的cd player 和一片小花每晚睡前必聽的催眠歌cd, 於是趕緊放下手中的鞋子轉攻cd, 馬麻見狀就跟小花婉言相勸說「cd吼馬麻好否?」 小花想一想,竟然乖乖把cd交到馬麻手上, 馬麻趕緊提高pitch,以超誇張的驚喜表情看著小花, 用國台語雙聲道反覆稱讚小花ㄐㄧㄡˋㄠˇㄟ!小花棒棒! 花花ㄐㄧㄡˋ乖ㄐㄧㄡˋ乖ㄟ! 小花被馬麻ㄅㄛ得一臉靦腆有些害羞, 接著又伸手跟馬麻把cd要回去, 然後再還給馬麻以換取下一輪超誇張的ㄛˇㄌㄡˋ... 到後來馬麻都把cd放回尿布台下方的架子上去了, 小花還堅持了一小下,跑去把cd抓下來再遞給馬麻邀功, 最後是馬麻拿了別的東西distract小花,才結束了這個循環。 再來就是今天晚上,這星期來都愈接近上樓時間精神就愈好、 玩興就愈高的小花被把拔抓來坐在把拔大腿上玩, 馬麻突然不知想到什麼,就跟把拔說其實這年紀的寶寶有的已經會拍拍手了耶, 把拔於是不假思索低頭就對著小花示範一次拍拍手, 然後再抓著小花的手,把十支蜷曲的胖胖手指一一掰開,再拉著對拍幾下, 而馬麻當然也在一旁幫敲邊鼓,拍手拍得很起勁── 就這樣,小花突然就開竅了! 當小花試探性地強撐開自己習慣捲成一團的十指作出拍拍的動作時, 把拔馬麻就用霹靂誇張的聲音表情拼命ㄛˇㄌㄡˋ小花, 小花於是愈拍愈起勁,動作也愈做愈正確... way to go,小花!

馬麻的天賦異稟

2005年08月25日
公開
13

今天來說說馬麻的天賦異稟。 很多年前有一次, 小花把拔和馬麻跑去整條封起來的仁愛路逛元宵燈節, 現場不消說當然是人山人海啦, 尤其把拔馬麻後來又好識相,跑去人家猜燈謎的舞台前鬥熱鬧,擠得咧! 現在回想起來那天的燈謎應該是很簡單啦,因為馬麻竟然大部分都會, 於是一直鼓動身旁的把拔說舉手舉手這題我會, 問題是台下少說幾百人耶,每次舉手的也差不多幾百人。 好,馬麻會猜燈謎是很希罕沒錯,但真正讓把拔害怕起來的, 是馬麻突然輕拍把拔大腿說,準備好喔,下一題就輪到你了! 把拔莫名其妙看了馬麻一眼,下一秒卻又毛骨悚然起來, 因為主持人真的點了把拔了! 這其實一點都不玄。 馬麻只要頭腦清楚咖啡﹝或酒﹞喝得夠多的時候,一直是根超敏感天線, 對環境──尤其是人──的許多細微訊號都能捕捉得很清楚。 元宵燈會那天馬麻只是剛好清楚地捕捉到主持人頭部的動作與眼神罷了。 當然也是要主持人剛好已經預先決定好下一個要點誰了啦。 那電光火石的一刻的感覺,也有點像是頻道突然接通了, 所以訊息可以解讀得很確定。 後來又有一次,是在敦南誠品前面看爆笑表演, 比現在少了將近二十公斤的馬麻那天穿了一件超ㄏㄧㄠˊ迷你花洋裝, 表演看著看著,馬麻突然躲到大熊把拔背後很俗辣地縮起來, 下一秒,表演團團長就說啦: 下一位要請上台的是那位穿花洋裝的*美麗*小姐...咦,啊郎咧? ﹝故事重點其實是*美麗*二字沒錯﹞ 然後要說說幾星期前,馬麻第一次清楚地和小花也有了這種頻道接通的感覺。 下午近傍晚,馬麻把小花放在high chair上,準備餵小花吃水果; 小花在椅子上坐得不安分,扭來扭去,玩興很濃的模樣, 馬麻就故意假裝板起臉,眼睛帶著笑意、嘴巴嘟起來地看著小花, 小花突然好像*叮*一聲地和馬麻接通了頻道, 也用盛滿笑意的眼睛回望著馬麻,和馬麻玩起眼神交流的遊戲起來了! 小花眼睛盛滿笑意和馬麻lock eye搖搖頭、 馬麻也眼睛盛滿笑意和小花lock eye搖搖頭... 馬麻記得很清楚那種心意可以完全交流的感覺── 好像馬麻暫時忘記小花只有多大、根本還是個小寶寶, 在那幾分鐘間,馬麻只感覺小花好像成了和馬麻可以完全對等交談的大人... 應該是七月底的某一天吧, 因為那時還在美國的小花糬叔後來和馬麻說, 妳們笑得好開心好大聲,我在游泳池都聽得到呢! 難忘的幾分鐘。馬麻會一直一直記得的。

離麻出走

2005年08月25日
公開
14

繼昨天趁馬麻趴在地板上不治暈睡一分鐘期間偷爬一整層樓梯、 在dining room邊緣扶著欄杆對樓下猛然驚醒的馬麻傻笑之後, 玩功進步神速的小花又發明新把戲了! 天生好識相的馬麻不過專心盯了幾分鐘電腦── 沒辦法,心事說開煩惱不再區就又有人在吵架了啊,精采萬分怎容錯過── 不爽遭到冷落的小花竟然就自己爬開了, 等馬麻回過神來時, 小花已經快手快腳爬了兩階樓梯、正在回頭偷看馬麻有沒有跟來咧! 後來,剩下的一整個下午, 小花就和馬麻反覆玩這個離麻出走的遊戲玩了不下十次: 小花趁馬麻不注意時偷偷爬走, 靜悄悄爬上兩階樓梯、再從欄杆縫間偷看馬麻有沒有跟來; 馬麻先是假裝不在意,然後猛然跳起, 一邊大叫「小花妳要去叨位小花妳要去叨位」一邊追過去, 小花一看到馬麻追過來, 就會笑得呼呼哈哈樂不可支、面部神經暫時失控口水四甩, 然後七手八腳奮力繼續往上爬,直到被馬麻自後方以雙手擒抱住小肥腰, 再施以ㄅㄨˇㄅㄨˇㄉㄧ搔癢酷刑,才乖乖束手就擒... 唉,雖然小花從樓梯上偷看馬麻的模樣實在可愛到不行, 可是馬麻畢竟有年紀了,怎堪這樣一操就是一下午! 吼,馬麻實在應該要設法來跟小花溝通一下 所謂「留得青山在不怕沒柴燒」的道理了...

小花的怪癖

2005年08月24日
公開
16

嗯,馬麻才泡好茶正要開工呢, 就收到妡妡媽咪的留言:唉呀,被點到名啦! 這個怪癖點點名的接龍遊戲馬麻也是昨天才在討論區看到的, 沒想到今天就被點到啦! 也好,正好給懶惰的馬麻推上一把, 就趁半夜安靜,來整理一下小花到目前為止幾個值得一說怪癖吧! 一,給我shimˋshimˇ,其餘免談。 話說小花小時候偶爾哭鬧起來,把拔馬麻可以拿來對付她的方法有很多, 比如說抱起來搖啊、在耳邊噓噓啊、拍拍背啊、 整個人俯臥在把拔胸前啊、還是放到bouncer上啊等等等等, 但以上方法成功把小花安撫下來的機率大約只有六七八成不等, 真正號稱成功率百分百的超世紀霹靂無敵壓箱寶殺手锏只有一個: 馬麻抱著小花坐在exercise ball上,奮力上下shimˋshimˇ! ﹝只能由馬麻來執行是因為怕把拔把球坐爆啦!﹞ 馬麻不知該怎麼形容小花被摟在馬麻懷裡shimˋshimˇ時的表情, 嗯,大約就像離鄉已久四處漂泊的浪子終於回到母親的懷抱吧, 那樣全然的放鬆、全然的「啊,this is where i belong」... 不過,小花四個月大後就漸漸grow out of 這項怪癖, 棄置多月的green big exercise ball重回小花生活也是這兩星期的事, 不過這又是後話了。 二,歡樂bar。 這是小花五六個月大時、返台召開巡迴親親擁抱會期間的怪癖。 話說小花笑容雖然燦爛如花,不過面對相機鏡頭或粉絲殷切的目光時, 卻常常突然笑容一收,呈現表情呆滯狀,讓把拔馬麻有點傷腦筋; 後來大概是把拔偶然發現的吧, 原來只要把小花雙手猛然往上一拉,故作歡呼狀, 小小花自然笑顏逐開,可愛到令人抓狂,週遭粉絲紛紛尖叫暈倒, 史稱「歡樂bar」。 三,超喜歡線狀或條狀或帶狀的東西。 這是小花最近正在經歷的phase。 相對於咪咪姊姊當年的無球不歡,小花真是深為條狀物所迷啊! 比如說馬麻短褲的繫帶啦、小花自己的鞋帶啦、把拔badge的彈帶啦、 把拔或馬麻掛在衣櫥裡的皮帶啦、甚至細微到浴室地上的馬麻的頭髮啦等等, 臭小花看到就要緊緊拉住,稍加端詳後便直接送入嘴裡, 要她「放嘴」還不是很容易的事呢! 嗯,差不多就這樣吧... 說來,小花真的是個天性隨和的孩子,沒有太多的執著; ㄋㄟㄋㄟ躺著喝坐著喝趴著喝跪著喝都好, 午餐十一點吃十二點吃一點吃兩點吃都可以, 睡把拔馬麻床好、睡自己的床床也好,外出睡car seat睡旅館床通通都好... 不執著怪癖自然少囉,乖小花!:)

Brown Bear Brown Bear What Do You See

2005年08月23日
公開
16

馬麻兩星期前冒著生命危險買回來的《Brown Bear Brown Bear What Do You See》 已經正式成為小花的最愛了! 本來因為書裡頭有一ㄓ巨大的那個F開頭的four-letter-word, ﹝噁,光打那個ㄓ和F就已經覺得有點頭暈了﹞ 馬麻於是決定把這本書列為把拔和小花的專屬書; 可是馬麻和花花整天一起關在家裡畢竟也會無聊啊, 上星期有天馬麻就因窮極無聊而起心動念,繼而鼓起前所未有的勇氣, 翻開書唸給小花聽﹝當然要跳過那一頁就是了﹞... 熱銷多年的經典作品果然不是浪得虛名! 馬麻九個多月來日夜期盼等待的畫面終於出現了: 小花乖乖坐在馬麻大腿上、讓馬麻唸書給她聽! ﹝之前,無論馬麻怎樣威脅利誘好言相勸,臭小花就是不領情, 從來等不到馬麻把書唸完就either咿咿啊啊顧左右而言他、進而抓書吃書, 或是速速爬離現場逃之夭夭,讓馬麻很傷心, 甚至開始懷疑小花是ㄐㄧㄥㄉㄧㄡˇㄧㄣㄌㄠˇㄅㄟ不愛看書...﹞ 也難怪小小花喜歡聽馬麻唸brown bear啦! 小寶寶就最喜歡重複的東西啦,加上圖畫構圖簡單顏色鮮豔, 果然有讓寶寶百聽不膩的潛力!﹝據說咪咪已經會recite整本書了呢!﹞ 馬麻上星期去媽媽group舉辦的mother goose time, 還學會把brown bear的詞套上twinkle twinkle little star的曲, 又多了一種變化! 其實之前小花也還蠻買《Where is Baby''s Belly Button?》的帳的啦, 可那是翻翻遊戲書,功能是把小花逗得呵呵笑,所以算是另一回事了。 總之結論:馬麻這個險冒得值得!母愛真是偉大!

剩下的十二小時

2005年08月16日
公開
16

小花每晚乖乖上床、 乖乖一覺睡上十二小時的作息似乎就這麼固定下來了。 馬麻突然想到,啊,小花一個人靜靜在自己房裡睡覺的時間, 可是著著實實佔去了一天的一半啊! 馬麻心頭一驚! 馬麻上星期剛好在七月份的《天下》雜誌上 讀到龍應台寫給她即將離鄉遠去的兒子的一封信: 「...然後是上小學的第一天。老師牽起你的手, 混在一堆花花綠綠、嘰嘰喳喳的小學生裡,你走進教室。 我看著你的背影消失在門後;你的背著書包的背影。 在那個電光火石的一刻裡我就已經知道:和你的緣分,在這一生中, 將是一次又一次地看著你離開,對著你的背影默默揮手。 以後,這樣的鏡頭不斷重複: 你上中學,看著你衝進隊伍、不再羞怯; 你到美國遊學,在機場看著你的背影在人群中穿插,等著你回頭一瞥, 你卻頭也不回地昂然進了關口,真的消失在茫茫人海中。 畢業,就是離開。 是的,你正在離開你的朋友們,你正在離開小鎮, 離開你長大的房子和池塘,你同時也正在離開你的父母, 而且,也是某一種永遠的離開。 當然,你一定要『離開』,才能開展你自己。 所謂父母,就是那不斷對著你的背影既欣喜又悲傷、 想追回擁抱卻又不敢聲張的人。」 儘管說馬麻神經吧! 可是馬麻就是需要這樣多的時間、必須這樣早開始準備自己, 才能微笑著──至少在小花面前──放手、揮手。 而在第一次須得放手的時刻來臨之前, 馬麻打算要綿綿密密地珍惜和小花一起的每一天每一分鐘。 「...你不用道歉,我明白我不是你最重要的一部分。 那個階段,早就過去了。 父母親,對於一個二十歲的人而言,恐怕就像一棟舊房子: 你住在它裡面,它為你遮風擋雨,給你溫暖和安全, 但房子就是房子... 我猜想要等足足二十年以後,你才會回過頭來, 開始注視這沒有聲音的老屋,發現它已經殘敗衰弱, 逐漸逐漸地走向人生的『無』、宇宙的『滅』; 那時候,你才會回過頭來深深地注視。」 其實不用二十年。 三十五歲的馬麻隔著太平洋,已經有了那樣的心情, 終於才明白自己原來已經離開這麼久這麼遠, 也開始明白有一天小花也會離開這麼久這麼遠... 剩下的十二小時,馬麻要更加珍惜。

《小花睡眠史》啪兔

2005年08月08日
公開
16

就這樣,小花在兩個多月大的時候,開始全面進駐把拔馬麻的床。 一家三口雖然這樣睡得熱和甜蜜── 甚至,馬麻現在回想起來,也覺得那確實曾是當時最好的安排── 但把拔馬麻一路走來,心頭卻始終掙扎不斷: 畢竟在美國比較prevailing的做法﹝and the whole set of philosophy behind it﹞ 是讓寶寶從小就自己睡; 畢竟馬把拔馬麻不是睡癖太好的人,到後來也忍不住了,在主臥房裡電視照開照看、 laptop電腦也給搬了進來,害小花也有愈來愈晚睡著的傾向; 畢竟這有違馬麻自以為採取的parenting style; 畢竟整間美輪美奐的nursery就晾在那裡僅只發揮浴室與更衣室的功能; 畢竟小花遲早還是得學習自己睡種種種種... 總之,把拔馬麻從頭到尾不停地給自己定時間表,放話要把小花送回自己房間: 本來說等小花滿四個月,後來因為要回台灣開巡迴親親擁抱會就先算了; 又說那就等從台灣回來好了,結果把拔的弟弟、小花的正港糬叔說要來玩一個月, 把拔決定就讓nursery充當一個月的客房,於是小花的獨睡之路再度往後順延; 直到上星期天,在將滿九個月的前夕,小花才終於踏出了自己睡覺的第一步。 在那個小花和馬麻裡應外合、在房門兩邊各自哭成一團的星期天夜裡, 馬麻跪倒在床邊,在淚眼汪汪中拼命想要想起為什麼要讓小花自己睡的理由; 馬麻想不起來,哭著問把拔, 眼框鼻頭紅紅的把拔其實也想不起來, 只是以一流的自制力簡短丟出一句有些莫名其妙的話: 已經開始做的事情就要貫徹做到好! 但總之馬麻和把拔都忍過來了。 小花第一晚哭了一小時四十五分鐘才力竭而眠。 第二晚,一小時。 第三晚,四十五分鐘。 第四晚,三十分鐘。 第五晚,和芸芸阿姨去Palo Alto晃了一下午,晚上連澡都來不及洗,隨便敷衍十五分鐘就睡著了。 第六晚,因為和咪咪姊姊玩了一晚、力氣用盡,才被把拔放進crib裡就暈過去了。 第七晚,去Santa Cruz海邊曬了一天,又陪把拔馬麻吃了漫長的一頓晚餐,勉強撐著洗完澡就沉沉睡去,一覺直到日上三竿,足足睡滿十一小時才被馬麻叫起來幫忙吃ㄋㄟㄋㄟ。 第八晚也就是昨晚,雖然無所事事過了一天,小花依然只是聊備一格地哀了五分鐘就睡著了。 我想小花應該算是已經學會自己睡覺了吧? 不只是學會,把拔馬麻甚至發現小花自己睡睡得比較好。 之前,小花夜奶情況有些小嚴重: 十一點半上床,在床上吃ㄋㄟㄋㄟ直到睡著, 到第二天十點左右起床之前,總要起來吃個兩三次ㄋㄟㄋㄟ不等; 前兩星期尤其嚴重,整夜起來哀個五六次竟然是很平常的事。 自己睡之後,乖小花不到天亮不會醒來, 睡得又好又飽起床後,也總是神清氣爽,開心愉快。 所以現在,眼淚早已擦乾、 甚至已經會偷笑的馬麻終於又想起來讓小花自己睡有什麼好了:好得很哪! for one,小花和把拔馬麻終於不再影響彼此的作息了。 說來也是把拔馬麻慚愧啦,小花愈來愈大後,把拔馬麻也愈來愈sloppy, 相對於最早的一切以小花作息為準,把拔馬麻漸漸地電視也開啦、燈也不關留著看書啦, 導致小花到後來往往到一兩點才甘願睡著,很是糟糕。 但把拔馬麻其實也委屈啊,睡前總也想輕鬆一下做些自己的事啊; 現在可好,把拔馬麻正打算擇吉日前往Blockbuster,把錯過的電影一部部給它看回來! 還有就是把拔終於可以回床上睡了。 從台灣回來後,因為小花日益壯大,把拔馬麻的queen床空間日益顯得侷促, 把拔於是自願搬futon在馬麻小花床腳打地舖﹝雖然把拔覺得那張優秀的futon其實比床上舒服啦﹞。 更不用說的是,馬麻終於可以開始工作了。 ﹝不過馬麻實在很不想深夜一個人縮在書房工作,還正在想看可不可以早點睡早點起來, 趁小花起床前開快車趕進度...﹞ 以上就是九個月大的小花到目前為止的睡眠史。 馬麻的結論是,小花真是個講理又善體人意的乖小孩哪! 也不管傻呼呼的馬麻曾經放過什麼話立過什麼誓, 小花總是不急不徐,設法讓把拔馬麻知道她的需要; 等到該退場的時候,也不曾太過為難把拔馬麻... ﹝馬麻低頭看一眼左手抓著電視遙控器右手正拿著一張撲克牌往嘴裡送的小花: 我的乖小花!!﹞

《小花睡眠史》啪萬

2005年08月05日
公開
36

馬麻回顧過去一週的日記標題,發現本週小花生活的主題就是睡覺覺這件寶寶大事; 乾脆,馬麻就趁機來整理一下小花到目前為止的睡眠史以玆日後查證好了。 話說馬麻當初甚至早在懷孕之前,就已經數度大聲放話嗆聲, 宣稱自己「絕無可能」讓寶寶上床和自己睡; ﹝馬麻當年是這麼說的:『因為性對我很重要!』﹞ 於是小花出生前在ㄘㄨㄢˊ小花家當的時候, 把拔馬麻便耗費鉅資幫小花弄了間設備超齊全且美麗高雅氣質出眾的nursery, 希望將來小花可以無怨無悔地入住。 此外,打算餵母奶的馬麻也還不至於太過不切實際,因為聽過太多母奶媽咪的強烈建議, 所以便另外準備了一張大約可以讓小花睡到三個月大的bassinet放在主臥房裡, 方便度過小花出生後前幾個月的頻繁夜奶期。 說來,小花真的算是相當ㄏㄛㄧㄡㄑㄧ的寶寶。 五六週大的時候就已經可以睡過夜,常常一覺四五六七個小時不必起來喝ㄋㄟㄋㄟ; 就是兩個月checkup的時候挨了四針,回家呼呼大睡,導致日夜再度顛倒, 把拔馬麻又奮鬥了兩三個禮拜才把小小花的作息調整回來。 在這場作息災難之前,小花大多是睡在把拔馬麻床邊的bassinet裡面, 只有偶爾時間到還不甘願睡覺、或是半夜醒來哭哭的時候, 把拔或馬麻──通常是把拔──才會把小花抱過來和把拔馬麻一起睡。 好,馬麻在這裡一定要for the record聲明一下, 其實在這個階段,馬麻並不喜歡把小花抱來床上一起睡; 因為小花還太小了,全身軟綿綿的,把拔馬麻床上又一堆蓬蓬鬆鬆的枕頭棉被, 馬麻深怕自己和把拔睡死了,壓到或悶到小小花, 所以就算夜奶,餵完後馬麻也盡量會把小小花放回bassinet裡去。 問題是把拔。 把拔因為幾次把半夜哭鬧的小花抱來放在自己胸前、 成功地讓小花聽著把拔心跳安心地再度睡去, 結果便嚴重上癮,深深沉迷在這種無比的滿足感裡頭無以自拔; 演變到後來,bassinet裡的小花只要輕輕地哼一聲, 把拔便急急跳下床、把小花接來床上。 言歸正傳。 在小花兩個多月大的那場作息災難期間, 馬麻體諒把拔白天上班要用腦,幾次要把拔搬futon去空置的nursery打地舖, 留馬麻和小花在主臥房床上繼續奮戰。 ﹝馬麻的方法不外是讓小花邊喝ㄋㄟㄋㄟ昏過去了,然後再緩緩傾斜放倒自己的身體, 盡量不著痕跡地把懷裡的小花一起帶倒在床上﹞ 兩三星期後,小花作息調整回來了, 馬麻和小花卻也養成了一起入眠的習慣。 對馬麻而言,一來小花大一些了、看起來已經沒那麼脆弱了, 二來則是嚐到了躺著餵ㄋㄟㄋㄟ的甜頭── 想想,小花半夜哭鬧,馬麻只消醒個五秒鐘, 把衣服掀開ㄋㄟㄋㄟ嘟過去,天下就太平了; 而對小花而言,天下還有比躺在馬麻身邊喝ㄋㄟㄋㄟ然後沉沉睡去更舒服的事嗎? 至此,馬麻已經繼把拔之後完全淪陷, 過往的放話嗆聲只當是年輕氣盛不懂事的妄語罷了!

小花九個月了!

2005年08月03日
公開
34

●Almost walking Your baby is getting closer and closer to full-fledged walking. At this age he can probably crawl up stairs and cruise, moving around upright while holding onto furniture. A few 9-month-olds may even take a couple of steps. Your baby is also learning how to bend his knees and how to sit after standing (which is harder to master than you might think!). There are ways to help your baby with his walking efforts. Stand or kneel in front of him, and help him walk toward you by holding both his hands. Eventually just hold your hands out to him in encouragement. Some babies enjoy pushing a toddle truck, which provides both support and mobility (look for one that''s stable, with a wide base). Childproofing your home is a necessity now. One good place to start is to put latches on the doors of off-limits cabinets — babies inevitably make a beeline for such things. ●Shoes? Not yet Once your baby starts standing and cruising, you may wonder if shoes are necessary. Until your baby is walking around outdoors regularly, most pediatricians and development experts don''t think so. Going barefoot can help strengthen your child''s arches and leg muscles, and feeling the textures of what he''s walking on can help him balance. ●Playing and learning Your baby can now put objects in a container and remove them. Give him a plastic bucket and some colorful blocks (make sure they''re not so small he can swallow them) so he can practice this new skill. He also likes toys with moving parts, such as wheels, levers, or doors that open and close. Big plastic cars that your baby can roll around on the floor are fun playthings, too. If you take a toy away from him, your increasingly assertive baby is likely to object. He''s really starting to be able to make his needs and wants known. About half of all 9-month-olds will initiate passing games — giving away objects and then taking them back. Be his playmate. Try rolling a ball to your baby and see if he rolls it back to you. Give him a sorting toy or stacking rings and see if he sorts or stacks or hands the pieces to you. ●Coping with separation Now, and for the next few months, separation anxiety is at its peak. Although it''s normal for a 9-month-old to show an extreme attachment to you and fear of everyone else, it can be difficult for doting grandparents and caregivers. You can help ease the transition for your child by warning people to approach slowly and let your baby make the first move. If your child uses a thumb or pacifier to soothe himself as he tries to cope with his anxiety, that''s okay. Sucking is one of your baby''s only methods of calming himself. ●Trying to travel Because of separation anxiety, this can be a tough time to be away from your baby for any length of time. But this can also be a tough age to travel with your baby. Your child likes predictability, and traveling may disturb his routines. If you do travel with him in tow, be prepared for some cranky, clingy behavior. Have plenty of distractions ready — picture books, noise-making toys, and, most important, his security object. If he still uses a pacifier, it''s wise to bring along a handful; they seem to vanish just when you need them most. ●Language comprehension The torrent of words your child has been hearing since birth is beginning to work its magic. By now, your baby''s understanding of words far outpaces his ability to use them. His babbling is probably starting to sound more like real words, including "ma" and "da." (But don''t get too excited just yet — these are more than likely not actual words but a couple of the many sounds he babbles constantly.) At this stage, your child still comprehends more from your tone than from your actual words. The more you talk to him — while preparing dinner, driving, or getting dressed — the more your baby learns about communication. In fact, one study found that the greatest predictor of later intelligence is how many words a child hears daily. Of course, idle background chatter and time spent parked in front of the TV don''t count. In fact, TV time may actually be harmful.To help develop your baby''s comprehension, he must hear words and language used interactively. At 9 months, a baby begins to understand the word "no," though he may not obey just yet. However, he will respond to his name by looking around or by stopping what''s he''s doing to see who called. Reinforce his recognition by saying his name frequently. ●Is my baby developing normally? Remember, each baby is unique and meets physical milestones at his own pace. These skills are simply a guide to what your baby has the potential to accomplish — if not right now, then shortly. If your baby was born prematurely, you''ll probably find that it will take him just a bit longer to do the same things as other children his age. Don''t worry. Most doctors assess a preterm child''s development from the time he should have been born and evaluate his skills accordingly.

馬麻睡不著

2005年08月02日
公開
41

現在是凌晨兩點,臂彎裡少了小花的馬麻失眠了。 小花從不曾離開馬麻身邊這麼久呀! 九個月來小花不在馬麻身邊超過兩小時只有兩次: 馬麻翹月子把小花留給把拔、自己帶阿嬤去逛mall; 在台北時把拔馬麻把小花留給阿嬤、跑去歡唱作樂了半晚。 然後就是昨晚和今晚。 馬麻好想念小花啊! 之前馬麻曾未雨綢繆, 特地把小花每晚睡覺蓋的那條彩虹熊被被保留了整整一個多月不曾洗過, 為的就是想保留上頭的氣味;等小花終於得學習自己睡了, 被被熟悉的氣味或許可以給小花帶來些許安慰── 結果馬麻可能想錯了,需要那條被被的其實是馬麻自己啊! 小花真的是個好孩子。 今晚把拔決定把上樓時間提早一小時; 於是小花十點半不到就已經躺在馬麻懷裡吃睡前ㄋㄟㄋㄟ, 十點四十五分、ㄋㄟㄋㄟ吃得差不多了的小花開始東張西望咿咿呀呀, 以為一邊和把拔玩一邊等馬麻洗澡的親子歡樂時間又到了, 可是馬麻卻心一橫,把小花放進crib裡,然後匆匆關燈關門。 馬麻衝回主臥房裡,跪倒在床邊,埋著頭等著聽到小花的哭聲; 小花果然抽抽噎噎地哭了起來,但時間過去了, 抽噎的哭聲卻始終不曾激化成昨晚那種傷心的嚎啕大哭, 只是斷斷續續的,有些哀怨,有些認命。 馬麻心如刀割地等了十五分鐘, 然後,看到馬麻進房的小花這才失控地大聲哭了起來, 馬麻於是趁把拔正在和阿公講skype的空檔不顧一切把小花抱起來, 坐到搖椅上,希望ㄋㄟㄋㄟ能給小花帶來一些安慰。 又十五分鐘過去,馬麻再度把小花放回crib裡、再度擒淚拂袖而去; 獨留在房裡的小花一度大哭,不久又安靜下來, 把拔馬麻以為小花睡著了,時間到進房才發現, 可憐小花竟然只是滿臉淚痕地跪在床上、雙手依然緊抓住圍欄, 安靜地凝望著一片黑暗的寶寶房。 把拔輕哄小花,要小花躺好,小花終於才又哭出聲來。 又十五分鐘過去,baby monitor終於不再傳來哭聲, 把拔進房查看:小花睡著了! 小花學習自己睡的第二晚,從第一次被放進crib到睡著,總共只花了一小時。 而馬麻卻失眠了。

小花第一次自己睡

2005年08月01日
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馬麻真的不知道自己原來這樣沒擋頭。 星期天下午,把拔在被馬麻唸了一個多月後, 終於去把小花的床墊放低一格了; 把拔並且順便宣布:就是今晚,小花要開始練習自己睡了! 馬麻整晚本來還沒什麼感覺, 後來十點半一到,自制力一流的把拔宣布結束樓下客廳業務, 抱著小花牽著馬麻上樓,把拔幫小花洗澎澎,母牛馬麻也趁機趕緊去洗澡── 馬麻自己去洗澡的時候,就已經開始覺得喉頭熱熱的了, 因為平常馬麻洗澡的時候,小花都是由把拔看著, 在把拔馬麻房間裡浴室內外ㄙㄡˊ來ㄙㄡˊ去自言自語耍可愛等馬麻, 而昨晚,馬麻自己一個人孤孤單單站在大大的浴缸裡頭, 水雖然很熱,馬麻卻覺得好冷,眼淚已經快要流出來了... 十一點整,喝ㄋㄟㄋㄟ向來速戰速決的小花 已經由馬麻抱著在自己房間的搖椅上喝完睡前最後一ㄋㄟ, 然後,分別的一刻終於要來臨了。﹝馬麻打這幾個字,眼淚又盈框了...﹞ 把拔把baby monitor打開調整好, 從微微不肯放手的馬麻手中把毫不知情的小花接過去、放在crib裡, 接著就牽著不怎麼肯移動腳步的馬麻的手,走出小花房間, 關燈關門:馬麻的眼淚終於應聲奪眶而出。 大約三十秒後,把拔馬麻房間裡的baby monitor就傳出了小花的嚶嚶啜泣聲, 又三十秒後啜泣聲激化成嚎啕大哭,馬麻的眼淚於是像斷線珍珠不停滾落, 故作堅強狀的把拔則打開電視,定睛看新聞,只偶爾偷瞄一眼鬧鐘。 好不容易熬完第一個十分鐘,把拔馬麻三步併作兩步衝進小花房裡, 只見淚人兒小花跪在床上,兩手緊抓住圍欄, 痴痴望向把拔馬麻剛剛離去的方向,一頭一臉的淚與汗; 把拔馬麻看得完全心碎崩潰,隔著圍欄緊緊擁住小花,一邊不住滴淚一邊低聲解釋安慰、另一邊還得強忍住把小花抱起來的衝動... 就這樣,把拔馬麻以強大的意志力頂住了三分鐘, 然後更以更強大的意志力決然轉身離去、回房再熬過下一個十分鐘和下下個十分鐘; 問題是,下一個十分鐘並不會比上一個十分鐘好熬, 連自制力驚人的把拔在看過小花抓著圍欄哭泣那一幕後, 也開始在主臥房裡、伴隨著monitor傳來的淒厲哭聲焦躁地來回踱起步來... 一小時四十五分鐘、也就是十次十分鐘checkup後, 小花終於哭到力氣用盡,沉沉睡去了。 ﹝好吧,馬麻承認其中有一次,馬麻小小崩潰, 哀求把拔讓小花再喝一點ㄋㄟㄋㄟ,把拔大概也受不了了,紅著眼眶答應了﹞ 小花這一覺倒是睡得很香,直到清晨五點才醒來, 由把拔抱到床上讓馬麻餵了一會ㄋㄟㄋㄟ,然後又回到自己的crib裡, 繼續睡到早上八點。 ﹝呃,八點醒來那次,因為把拔後來就去上班了, 所以馬麻就把小花偷渡留在馬麻床上,母女相擁一覺到中午:)﹞ 長長一覺醒來的小花一臉神清氣爽,除了眼皮微微浮腫外, 昨夜那場戰役似乎並沒有折損開心小花的精神或是和馬麻的感情; 倒是馬麻心有餘悸,明顯traumatized,想到小花跪哭床上那幕依然會想掉淚。 小花獨立的第一夜算是成功了。 就看今晚吧,今晚的checkup間隔要延長成十五分鐘了。 把拔馬麻加油啦!